Reference Letters

On May 2, 2010 Ruth Clarence came to Rocky Mountain House and shared with the Rocky Mountain House Alliance Women timely truths.

Ruth delivers a very professional seminar on the delicate subject of marital intimacy. She does this with a confident and comfortable presentation. I found she is so at ease with the subject that she set the tone for the whole day.

The best part is that she not only shares insights and ideas on how to build more opportunity for intimacy and affirmation into your marriage but she also has two books, “Understanding and Meeting Your Husband’s Sexual Needs” and “Fire Starters”. They allow you to take home and apply what you have learned in the course.

I would recommend any Church to take advantage of this seminar, as it speaks into an area of marriage that is not often spoken about from the pulpit.

Sincerely,
Dianne Baker,
Marriage Ministries, Rocky Mountain House, AB

It is my pleasure to recommend the Ladies Only seminar given by Ruth Clarence, of Two-Gether Ministries.

Ruth is a dynamic, down-to-earth teacher, who imparts insight and understanding to those who come to her sessions. Her material, on how to love your husband even better, is excellent, Biblically sound, and transforming, to say the least. At no point in the seminar did I feel uncomfortable. Ruth shared many truths with us, and I left at the end of the day feeling like God had indeed started to transform my thinking. I have come away with more of God’s perspective on marriage, and the intimate relationship He has entrusted to married couples. I felt encouraged, and have benefited greatly from this godly woman’s teaching. Ruth’s seminar would be a great blessing to those who are planning to be married, to those who are newly married, and to those who have been married for many years. Thank-you Ruth!

Betty Elkin
Elder’s Wife
Cochrane Valley Community Church

Dear Ruth:

I just wanted to take a minute to write to you and say “thank you” for taking the time to be at our church this past weekend. Your conference “Two-Gether Intimately” was such an inspiration to all ladies who attended. It was so good to hear how God intended a man and a woman to enjoy what God has blessed them with… namely each other.

The nature of your time with the ladies was so honest and it was refreshing for you to be transparent with the group. Your Biblical perspective on marriage and the roles we play as women was a much needed venue for all women today.

I know that each of the ladies felt no sense of pressure and could relax and take in all the material that was provided. Hopefully there will be many marriages that will see improvement from the women spending time at your seminar.

Thank you again for taking the time to come to Fairview, AB and minister to our ladies.

Hope Shannon
Pastor’s Wife
Cornerstone Baptist Church

To Whom it May Concern:Ruth’s seminar entitled “Two-gether Intimately” has been a wonderful success as she has challenged our woman throughout the Alberta NWT district of the Pentecostal Assemblies of Canada.

Just recently, Ruth shared one session at our annual, “Women in Ministry Retreat.” The session had an incredible impact on the women that were present. I personally had many testimonials of how the information presented was life changing to those who heard it.

Ruth takes a delicate topic of sexuality and within a Christian context offers clear, humorous and helpful insights. I would offer a strong word of recommendation for anyone seeking to have a speaker who handles this subject matter in a most appropriate and challenging way.

Sincerely

Rev. Kenneth A. Solbrekken
Secretary Treasurer &
Director of Pastoral Care

Dear Christian Friends:I would like to take this opportunity of letting you know of our appreciation for the ministry of Ruth Clarence with our ABA Pastors’ Wives Conference. Our goal for this annual conference is to build up these women in their personal faith lives, in their marriage and home relationships and in their church ministry within our association. The theme for this year’s conference was Intimacy in Marriage and we prayed for God to send us a speaker who would help to accomplish our goals.

Ruth Clarence came and we had a wonderful weekend of hearing practical advice and reminders in the area of our husband/ wife relationships. Not only were these times with Ruth helpful, she handled a sometimes difficult topic with grace, discretion and sensitive humour. There were no awkward moments or uncomfortable individual situations. Her willingness to b

e vulnerable enabled many others to be open for the help they had been seeking – some for many years. Her attitude of being a learner herself made us feel part of a family and bonded us together more closely than ever. Ruth’s obvious love for the Lord Jesus Christ and for her husband insured that we were directed toward God and His Word for help in developing our relationships at home.

I have no hesitation in heartily recommending Ruth Clarence as a spiritually growing person, as a loving wife and as a creative and lovable person. Any opportunity that I might have to be a part of her further ministries would be welcomed and given high priority in my own schedule.

Sincerely

To Whom it May Concern:As a husband and family physician, I highly endorse Ruth and Simon Clarence’s “Two-gether Intimately” seminar on human sexuality for married couples.

My wife was invited by a friend to Ruth’s ladies seminar entitled “How to Meet Your Husband’s Sexual Needs”. She thoroughly enjoyed the seminar and encouraged me to join her and attend the next couple’s seminar.

I was very impressed. Ruth and Simon are both gifted communicators. The content of the seminar was scientifically accurate and biblically relevant. The information was presented with humour, but in a sensitive and tactful manner.

Attending this seminar would be time well invested for couples of all ages and a great start for engaged couples.

Yours sincerely,

W.M. Dobson, M.D., C.C.F.P.

To Whom it May Concern:As a pastoral counselor and Chartered Psychologist, I have used Ruth Clarence’s book as a helpful Christian resource for both individuals and couples in my counseling ministry.

I have promoted and encouraged ladies to attend her women’s seminars and couples to participate in their couples seminar.

My wife and I attended one of the couples seminars and found the material and the presentation to be Biblically-based and presented in a very sensitive and professional manner by both Ruth and her husband, Simon.

Special attention needs to be made of the fact that this material dealing with the celebration of sexual intimacy in marriage is shared in a practical, sensitive and wholesome manner.

I am very pleased to highly recommend the ministry of Ruth and Simon Clarence and would be pleased to respond further to any questions one might wish to ask about my support of their ministry.

Sincerely,

Ross Olson, MA, Med (Rev.)
Chartered Psychologist

To Whom it May Concern:It has been our privilege to have Ruth Clarence of Two-gether Ministries on 100 Huntley Street, a Live, Canadian daily Christian television program. 100 Huntley Street is seen coast to coast in Canada and parts of the United States. Ruth deals very tastefully with the subject of her two books, “Romance 101—101 Creative and Fun Ideas to Keep Your Marriage Alive!”, and “Two-gether Intimately—Understanding and Meeting Your Husbands Sexual Needs”. The response by viewers to her appearances has been positive. I highly recommend Ruth for her ability to beautifully communicate a very sensitive subject in a clean yet humorous way.

You’ll want her back again and again!

Sincerely.

Paul Willoughby
Associate Producer
100 Huntley Street

To Whom it May Concern:Ruth Clarence’s seminar on Understanding and Meeting Your Husband’s Sexual Needs was a breath of fresh air. In the Pastoral Ministry we are often faced with difficult questions relating to husbands and wives and their sexual relationship. While attending this seminar, many of those questions were answered.

Ruth presents the material with professionalism & humor, and shows a genuine concern to see the sexual lives of married couples is healthy, fulfilling, and all that God has ordained it to be.

After the seminar I had one lady from our church come up to me and say, “I wish this would have been taught 20 years ago.”

Well, it is being taught now and I am so thankful that Ruth was obedient to the call of God on her life to rise up this ministry. It is much needed in the body of Christ and I would recommend every married or engaged woman to attend.

The only thing left to say is “Ruth, you go girl!!”

Kim Carter
Drayton Valley Word of Life Centre

To Whom it May Concern:Ruth Clarence came to Hillcrest Apostolic Church in Moose Jaw Sk almost a year ago now. She was with us to lead us in her seminar “Understanding and Meeting Your Husbands Sexual Needs.”

I would recommend this seminar to anyone. Ruth was able to approach this subject from a biblical point of view, with tact, honesty, and transparence. At times she had us laughing as we related to her, and at times we were in silent contemplation as we became aware of our God given responsibility in this area of our marriage.

I still am hearing from women about how they were blessed at the Two-gether Intimately conference.

I believe that the church is waking up to the fact that intimacy is a gift from God and, Christians are not exempt from divorce and unhappy marriages. Ruth Clarence and Two-gether Ministries are a gift that God has given the church in this season. I am grateful that she has said yes to the call on her life and couples are being blessed.

Melody Machmer
Hillcrest Apostolic Church
Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan

To Whom it May Concern:

I have known Ruth Clarence for a number of years and have worked with her in a variety of situations during that time. Two years ago I attended her very first Understanding and Meeting Your Husbands Sexual Needs conference and was able to encourage many ladies from our church to participate in what was to become a growing ministry.

Although it is not the kind of information that you speak about loudly, the comments from those ladies are unanimous that the conferences contain valuable and practical advice for marriage, shared in a humorous and non-threatening atmosphere.

Just this week I received an e-mail from a lady who had attended the most recent conference. She stated that she had come away feeling like she had new energy for warmth and tenderness in her relationship with her husband. She commented, “it was very tastefully done and she (Ruth) gave some very good ideas. Well done!”

Ruth’s conferences have been a day well spent for many ladies, and the teaching they received will have a long term impact on their lives.

Sincerely,

Janice Deboski
Pastor of Adult Education
Sherwood Park Alliance Church

After 24 years of marriage, this sensitive, practical, Biblical and humourus reminder that sexual intimacy involves so much more than “our time in the bedroom” was exactly what our relationship needed. Thank you so much for making yourselves available to be used by God in such a powerful way in this important yet often neglected area of the Christian life.Après 24 ans de mariage, ce rappel que “l’intimité sexuelle implique beaucoup plus que notre temps dans la chambre à coucher”, communiqué d’une manière simple, pratique, biblique et rempli d’humour, c’était exactement ce dont notre relation avait besoin. Merci tellement de nous avoir communiqué ce message puissant dans un domaine de la vie chrétienne si important et pourtant si négligé dans l’Église aujourd’hui.”

Even more deeply in love now,

Gerry and Kathy Kraemer
Lamater Community Church (Eglise Chretienne Lamater)
4490 rue d’Argyle
Terrebonne, Québec
J6X 1K2
450-964-3242

To whom it may concern:We, the Straffordville EMC church have had Ruth Clarence conduct a Ladies Only seminar at our church entitled “Two-gether Intimately – Understanding and Meeting Your Husband’s Sexual Needs“.

We found her teaching very helpful and biblical and we all greatly appreciated it!

We found her presentation very tasteful and fun to listen to. She shared a lot of simple, affordable yet meaningful ideas for romance. It was very good to learn to understand how to meet our husband’s needs.

We found her presentation very relaxing and non-threatening!

We highly recommend Ruth to come and teach on this subject.

Lorna Wall
Pastor’s Wife
Straffordville EMC Church
(519) 866-5460

Dear Ruth:I had the privilege of participating in your “Two-gether Intimately Seminar in May of this year and want to thank you for a wonderful day!

As a marriage counselor, I daily hear the stories of disappointed expectations, hurtful actions and general misunderstandings concerning marital intimacy. Too often, God’s intentions regarding this aspect of marriage are wrongly interpreted. And due to the personal nature of sexual intimacy, many people find it difficult or too embarrassing to seek the help they desperately need.

Thank you for your timely, insightful and practical approach to this topic. You addressed this sensitive area of marriage with a beautiful mix of humour and compassion. For a topic that has the potential to be awkward, it appeared that

everyone in attendance, no matter the current situation or past experience, was engaged and comfortable. I certainly was!

Thank you also for the strong biblical emphasis to your presentation. Your statement “our sexuality was created by God, and it was His idea” removes the fear of being ‘carnal’ and allows couples the freedom to explore and enjoy each other’s bodies with a God sanctioned invitation!

I will confidently recommend your book and seminar to my clients, whether they are struggling intimately or not. Your material would encourage any marriage!

Sincerely
Elaine Olson

Elaine Olson
B. Th. CMC.MCC

Ruth Clarence was our featured speaker for the “New Life Fellowship CRC’s women’s retreat” held this spring. This is our third (one day) retreat, and we try to improve on the last year’s speaker, hoping to “tweek” some added interest so that women will want to come and give themselves “a day out” We promote our treat as “a rest, a laughter and refreshment”, and yet the day needs to be worth all the work of getting out.This spring, Ruth gave us what we were looking for and more! She came with a Biblically –based message that was dressed up with humor and inspiration The topic is a sensitive one, yet it’s a topic that attracted a lot of women (inside our church, and from surrounding neighborhood churches and we knew that our “taking a risk” was well worth the effort! Ruth gave us a strong foundation, say that sex is OK… it’s God’s idea, and she walked out practical advice, sprinkled with stories from her own personal walk. The response to the day was overwhelmingly positive. 100% said that they would highly recommend this seminar to a friend and 100% sais that the money spent on this day out was well worth it. Her talk was straight forward and informative, and also sensitive to gals who have regrets, or who feel “stuck”. The day attracted women of all ages, which we thought was quite a statement in itself. It was great to see younger women attend, since marriages and our men do need to be affirmed more than we give them credit for at times.

We highly recommend Ruth and her message. Her pre-event ideas and recommendations were also helpful and she does most of her own advertising, providing the flyers and even submitting a “blurb” about her talk in the local paper.

Ruth is certainly worth “taking the risk”

Bernice Steenbergen, Pastor’s wife and event co-ordinator

New Life Fellowship Christian Reformed Church
Red Deer, Alberta

Simon and Ruth ministered at our National Convention this year Their presentation of Understanding and Meeting Your Mate’s Sexual Need was well received by the couples in attendance!Many of the couples received enlightening insight into their own relationships.

Ruth and Simon presentation, along with being professional and humourous was presented in good taste.

Dennis and Shelly Roberts
International Directors for University of the Family

Marriage Ministries International (now University of the Family)

Dear Ruth:I write this letter to thank you for having the boldness to speaking to Christians about the “taboo” subject of sex. My husband and I have been in ministry since 1997 and we have never attended a seminar that dealt with this subject before because we felt apprehensive about it. I found your seminar to be well-rounded especially when you encouraged the cultivating of a friendship as well as the intimate relationship between a husband and wife.

I am so glad that you were the speakers for our couples retreat for the Ottawa Church of God. Your teaching was done tastefully, honestly, transparently, freely and with the motive to help Christian married couples be all that God created them to be.

Too often as Christians, we think that the subject of sex is too personal to be taught. From what I witness at the seminar, I now know that that kind of thinking is wrong.

Thank you for your willingness to minister one-on –one to anyone who needed it even during the breaks. That shows me you care deeply for the couples God sends your way

Rev. Lorraine Methe

Rockford Church of God
Rockland, Ontario

Hi Ruth and SimonWe enjoyed our time at the seminar SO MUCH! You are both a breath of fresh air! You are an amazing couple with an outstanding ministry to couples. Thank you for all you poured into our lives. We had several people, including the pastors, come to us Sunday morning to tell us that they have heard great things about the weekend!

May God bless you both with overflowing abundance for all that you give.

Jerry and Stefanie Couteau

Ottawa Life Centre
Ottawa, Ontario

To Whom It May Concern:When the Calvinist Cadet Corps has a counselor’s convention, it’s for more than just the leaders in this boy’s ministry. It’s for the leaders and their families. Wives and children are invited and encouraged to take part.That’s why we were delighted to have a workshop at our summer convention called Romance 101. It was for men and wives together, and proved to be an excellent choice! The presentation, provided by Two-gether Ministries of Devon, Alberta – was tasteful, fun and useful. Even an excellent marriage like the one I’m in can use positive outside influence, and this provided it. As an example, one simple thing I picked up from it was the occasional purchase of a single rose to surprise my wife.Anyone who takes this workshop – and takes it seriously should profit from it. If their relationship doesn’t improve, it not the fault of the leaders, who obviously know and love their stuff.I’ve spoken with others who were at the same workshop I was in, and they agree. If you have an opportunity to use Ruth and Simon Clarence at your event, do it! You’ll learn, you’ll have fun and you won’t be sorry.

Sincerely,

G. Richard Broene
Executive Director
Calvinist Cadet Corps

The Calvinist Cadet Corps
Grand Rapids, Michigan

Dear RuthThank you so very much for the time you spent with us for our Women’s Retreat. Your presentation of your TWO-GETHER INTIMATELY seminar was both humorous and informative while all the time remaining both God honoring and tastefully presented!

Your Biblically based workshop was very tastefully presented in a way that honors the Christian principle of marriage in ways that brings information to women about improving our marriages and romantic relationship with our husbands and yet is still fun and enjoyable without embarrassing anyone. I will admit openly that as the pastor’s wife, I was very cautious. I did have doubts. Although this presentation had been recommended to me by a lady who had previously attended, I was not convinced. There have been times in the past that a speaker has been recommended to me by someone, but I was placed in a position where I was very uncomfortable because of the way the information was either presented or was not scripturally sound.

I appreciate you ministry very much and will give my wholehearted support to it. It has been long enough that the world has held its opinions over the lives of God’s people. Having now personally attended this seminar, I can only say “Thank you for coming. And “I wish that I had been able to take part in something like this years ago!”

Sincerely

Donna Engel
Pastor’s Wife

Evangelical Missionary Church of Canada
Nampa Gospel Fellowship